STRESS RELIEF AND MORE
Caring for a loved one can take its toll on any caregiver’s health and well-being. The right retirement community spells relief.
“I don’t have to go out and shop anymore. I used to do all kind of things if she wasn’t feeling well, like run to the doctor or elsewhere. It’s a big relief and it’s really taken the pressure off.” – Art Barstow, resident of East Village Place
MEET RESIDENTS ART AND MARILYN BARSTOW AND THEIR DAUGHTER PATTI CASTELLI, A SEVEN-YEAR EMPLOYEE OF EAST VILLAGE PLACE.
You can learn a lot from someone who has been in your shoes. Their honest insight can help you navigate your way to the place that’s right for you, regardless of which community you choose. (All quotes contained in this post are excerpts from an interview conducted with resident Art Barstow and his daughter, Business Office Director Patti Castelli on Wednesday, July 25th, 2018. To read the full, un-edited transcript, please click here.)
Married 70 years, Art and Marilyn met in an asparagus field in Hadley, MA, home to the Barstow family farm. Attending UMASS Amherst at the time, Marilyn had volunteered to pick asparagus with her girlfriends, since America was at war and farms were shorthanded. Art was the lucky teenager assigned to transport the girls to and from the farm in his truck. They married in 1948, raising four children in East Granby, CT and making many happy family memories on tent trailer vacations across the U.S. Art worked as an Electrical Engineer while Marilyn served as a scout leader and eventually as Town Clerk for East Granby. At East Village Place, their home since February 2016, they enjoy music programs together and Art bowls in a Simsbury league with his longtime pals.
SMALL COMMUNITY, BIG DIFFERENCE
Before a family member needs routine help due to physical or cognitive challenges, it’s a good idea to get to know the alternatives that would prevent the need to face those challenges alone. After an exhaustive search, Art and Marilyn moved to East Village Place where they continue to enjoy life together while benefiting individually according to their own needs. “I see a big difference in dad, I feel like he was a lot more stressed out and worried about mom and taking care of things where now he seems to be more relaxed, enjoying the company, enjoying the other residents that are here and occasionally going on some events and on some trips out. We went to a baseball game just last week, mom, dad and myself with the group from East Village.” – Patti Castelli, daughter of Art and Marilyn Barstow and Business Office Director for East Village Place
LOOK AND LEARN
Art and Marilyn had downsized to Metacomet Homes senior apartments with no services when Marilyn began experiencing progressive memory loss. Patti and her brothers encouraged Art to explore their living options thoroughly. Even though Patti loved working at East Village Place, she made sure Art knew the decision was his. “We looked at a few different communities and met with residents, looked at the community, looked at the people that lived there as well as the staff members and you can learn a lot by gauging the wellness and the well-being and the happiness of the people that you’re seeing and knowing that this is a good place that you want to live.” – Patti Castelli
RIGHT AT HOME
Art agrees with Patti’s assessment below and appreciates that while East Village Place is not new, it’s up to date. “One of the things I think a lot of people like about East Village Place is that it is relatively small. Some of the other communities that people come in when they tour around we hear their comments, ‘That other place was just so big.’ Ours may not be the newest, but it has a true sense of home as a small community and I think a lot of people really like that.” – Patti Castelli
DON’T JUST TAKE OUR WORD FOR IT
Meet Art and Marilyn Barstow and their daughter Patti Castelli, Business Office Director, over a drink in The Newport Pub or fresh brewed coffee or tea in The Coffee Coop. Just call 1-413-754-4916 to set up a time. Bring your questions and get honest answers straight from the source.
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